Taylor, Match.com thing. My wife would look up marriage dresses. Etc. Think the monsters got me after that? Yup. Did not mention it to her. Why, because then she would know I was snooping and also cover her tracks more. After a couple days you get a chance to think and realize you may want to keep that snooping tool under your skirt. When I feel strong and can't stand it anymore then may look and get a feel for where her head is at online. The risk with this is you ride the deadly rollercoaster that could kill you. It will become a part of your emotional behavior and you become as nuts as your spouse. Did I mention how unfair all this S**t is? The best chance of you making it through this is to detach from the drama like everyone says. It takes practice. Not easy.