Now what?

[stephanie]

I am not asking my children to forget about the ex, he was not their bio dad, but he was the first taste they had of a dad. Not for lack of me trying to get their real dad involved because I have given them every chance in the world. But the ex is already living w the other woman and has been since Feb. He wants nothing to do with the kids and this in my opinion can be crushing to a child. I told him a long time ago that I would still like for him and the kids to have a relationship because he has been such a part of theirs lives. But left to his discretion he has not done this or made this effort. To watch my children be heartbroken is enough to break my own heart over and over again. And as far as they go I was not going to bring the new B.F. in for a while til I saw where it was going but as we all know somethings just happen. But he does have his place and I do have mine so we still have separate space and still come together and do things with the children.