Lessons learned at every bend

[optimist]

Of all the stupid things I could do, I went and did it! I had to work this morning and H stayed home to take care of our D. I came back around 10 and H stayed on, playing with D and napping with me until 12:30 when he got up and dressed to go to work.

I was scared and horrified because I was thinking he was leaving this late to go to OW's for early dinner/late lunch and tell me he was working (which is what he had apparently done in other TGs and holidays). I was debating with myself whether to ignore my fears and act 'as if' nothing was amiss or face them, tell him in a non-accusatory way and ask him to take us with him to work, to asuage my fears.

Either would have been a good open way to address the problem. It would have been non controlling. But then, my daughter asked him to go with him and he said no. I panicked and offered to go with him anyway, in an overbright manner which smacked of control even to me. He was mad and left, not even taking his wedding band. I tried to stop him and talk but he just rushed away...

This is just not working...

I just called his cell phone and it is on but he did not answer. I am not going to page him. I will give him space.