YOu are also assuming that he will think you have only one source... All you have to tell your H is
"A LOT of people know a LOT more about what you're doing than YOU THINK... We are NOT stupid..."
That's an incredibly vague statement that should intimidate him quite a bit...
AGREE!! Maybe even an "I frankly was amazed by how many people came out of the woodwork, some of whom I didn't even know. There are a lot of people concerned about you, you know."
You can also let slip a "he" when your source is really a "she," or a "I heard" when you really SAW, etc. -- to throw them off track. I hinted that my intel was visual, to throw my wife off track to the voice-recorder.
More than half of divorce busting is just intimidation and courage.. It really is a poker game... You don't need leverage, you just need the confidence to intimidate your WS into backing down... Not based on what you DO know, but what they THINK you KNOW and what they THINK you MIGHT do...
As long as you have the balls to make some early hard hitting choices so they see you mean business the rest is a lot easier.. if you keep backing down and choking early on... the game is theirs...
YOu have to realize Mel this is mostly intimidation... INTEL HELPS but you have to be foreful too.. If you don't USE the INTEL to go on teh offensive he's just going to push the affair further along...
This is easier for men to undertsand because they play poker.. women don't play poker nearly as much and as a result they struggle with this strategy
You guys are great . . . thank you so much for the help. H must have just found the notes on the cars, as he just texted me "Not sure if you can take care of dd. Should I be worried? You need help. Do you need me to pay for a doctor?"
I think my response is a no response until it becomes impearative that I let him know he won't be taking dd overnight to their house tonight . . .
Because then he has to worry about what else I know/saw.
You shoudl organize a woman's poker night to get some practice in... I started a weekly poker game at work when my wife was having an affair.. it helped me LOADs... and I made some money! lol
You guys are great . . . thank you so much for the help. H must have just found the notes on the cars, as he just texted me "Not sure if you can take care of dd. Should I be worried? You need help. Do you need me to pay for a doctor?"
I think my response is a no response until it becomes impearative that I let him know he won't be taking dd overnight to their house tonight . . .
Because then he has to worry about what else I know/saw.
