Goodness, I'm sorry for your brother's sitch wii. How devastating that must be. You know I have to give credit to STBXW that at least she's discreet about whatever she does. Even the last time she never let me even get the wind of it until we were reconciling and then she appologized profusely etc still never giving me any details which is better that way. Also, she'd never take pics even with me (or maybe especially with me? lol)...seriously though that's a disaster waiting to happen especially in the Internet era.
Hope he can handle it and know that it's not that she found someone better than him but she's just another chick who's lost her way.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Thanks everybody, but my evening was not over. I walked into D16's room and found her in tears, apparently she just broke up with her boyfriend this evening! The fun never ends around here. So I spent about an hour talking with her, holding her and kissing her. Now, I'm going to bed, nothing can go wrong there can it ?
It's been a tough week for you. But you know what? I have confidence that if there's anyone that can handle it, it's you my friend!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Can't sleep, my legs hurt from the fall. D16 is in bed, she called a friend to see if she could come over and spend the day with her but friend has summer school. I asked her if she'd like me to stay home with her and she said she would. She just didn't want to be alone tomorrow. So I'll take a comp day or something. When I look back on our conversation I'm actually very proud of myself. I just wish my parents could have talked to me the way I talked to her. I know our R just deepened a great deal. I also know that she knows that her Dad loves her and that means the world! Tomorrow will be a better day.
Wii: So sorry. I can relate, though. My D is 21 and still pining over a boyfriend she broke up with 4 months ago. They're tried to stay friends which is just a BAD idea. When I can't take it anymore (the expectations, letdowns, suspicions and sobbing) she takes it all out on me.
D just visited the cottage for 22 hours. It was so painful. Angry because she got lost (refused my directions, took advice from ex BF instead), was ticked that Josh was here (he stayed to take her on his new boat and cook her steak), never lifted a finger and was rude the entire visit, then sobbing over a perceived slight from the ex. If he doesn't text her what she wants to hear when she wants to hear it - she is a mess. I suggested counselling and that went over like a lead balloon.
Sorry for dumping on your thread. I am at my wit's end.
So, I've got at least five more years of this to follow! Hey, I've got a younger one too. I was talking to my Chiropractor this morning and she said "you're daughters lucky, my dad would say 'he just wasn't right for you' and leave the room" I sat with D when I came home and she had a whole pile of tissue on her bed, I held her and we talked some more. I told her how tears are God's way of cleansing us of our sadness, it's good to do it and let it out. We talked about how alone she felt right now and she asked me about my breakup experiences, much about with mom. That was tough, trying to talk about my grieving experience without badmouthing her mom. Finally, I suggested she have a shower, get dressed and have something to eat. Afterwards, she wrapped her arms around me and said "I'm so glad you're my Daddy!" I told her that I was here for her and would ALWAYS be here for her. Well, now it's lunchtime.
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