My question is how slow to go? I thought the gesture to leave something when we left and when she got back from her trip would be a good thing to do.

We will be separated(physically) for 10 days. I do intend to send her pics from vacation of me and the kids showing we are having a good time. I thought this would be good catnip.

Me 31 Wife 34
(Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6
Married 3/3/01
Separated 6/4/10
Bomb 6/14/10
Served 6/22/10
EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10
Now Back Together 8/1/10