She's interested in another man. You still haven't called the meeting the order. She's not attracted to you. She knows you know and you still enable it - pay for her cell phone, let her live at home, still chase her, ask her what the plan is and put up with her CB.
Who is you wife more attracted to? Where does she spend her emotional energy? Who has her positive feelings? Why isn't it you? Understand the dynamics of atttraction between a man and woman.
I had a real simple plan. Make my goals. Then map out what to do (think). If it worked I kept it if not tried something new. I didn't let my perception cloud what the process would be. Don't try to understand what your W is thinking but what she is feeling. It's very easy to change someones feelings. To do it you have to change the way they think about something.
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I must be dense, because I don't get it.
I guess she probably is still interested in OM (chemical thing still going on?) but I don't think they have been talking, lately anyway. I busted her on this in May, but now that she has filed for D, I'm not sure what else I can do. I have let her know the OM has OW2 and she knows I am still in contact with OMW.
Once she filed for D, I set-up my own accounts and I don't pay her phone bill or for any of her personal entertainment. She does get paid $550 per week from her job, so she does have some $.
Legally, I can't force her out of the house and she has said she won't leave. Do I just be a constant ass so she will leave of her own volition? Not sure how you would propose I get her out. I don't feel it has anything to do with "letting her". If I try to remove her physically, the police will get called and then I will be out.
Is CB = constant BS?
Regarding dynamics of attraction, do you have any recommended reading on this topic? I have never been good with women. Last night I tried to listen attentively and validate, but I have also been told to just "be gone". I have been doing tons of stuff with the kids, which was one of her complaints early on.
I am more of a book smart type of guy and don't really understand the psycological aspects of this at all.
Sorry to seem so helpless, but I could use some specifics.
Thanks!
Supposedly Rihanna is coming after Chris Brown. They are saying that Chris has been real "hot" lately, noting a recent performance that must have perked her interest. Now she has to have him, I think this is what it is.
