I sat them all down over the July 4th weekend - and we talked about if they get that alarmed feeling again while with H that they needed to call me and we would get them out of the situation.
I think all of your kids are old enough to talk to him directly esp the older two. I would not get involved on their (D's)behalf unless it was truly [i][/i] dangerous [b][/b]. Even your S needs to be able to speak up for himself with his Dad. I know how hard it is for them. I also know we can wind up enabling our kids if we stick our noses in.
After all who will pay the consequences for the fake ID if he gets popped?? Your son will. Same as if he did it with friends. He needs to understand what those consequences are, and why he really wants to avoid them.
