i think you should 'act as if' until you have spoken to your lawyer and protect yourself (gucci terms: cover all of your bases financially). he will think 'this is easy .. i love cake.' once that's all done, then give him the "i've been thinking about us and you're right. it took me a while to come to terms with it but i can see where you are coming from and i think d-ing is for the best. i want to look out for our kids' best interest and not disrupt their lives because of this so i think it's best that you move out. the couch is not an option because the kids will ask questions and it just won't work. your stuff is here and the door is over there."
in your best cake nazi voice .. "no cake for you!"
totally agree. make sure you are protected first. call a L asap. you might even be able to get in today for consultation.
