...I don't think it's OM or addiction. I think its inside her. She went to 40 clothes stores (not to include Walmart and all the other kinds of stores) in the month of June. You buy new clothes for an OM but you don't spend all your time at the stores. She took 2 hour lunches and shopped in different parts of town. I check the times on the receipts. I think she buys to make herself feel better to escape reality.
You need to learn to recognize addictive behavior. Look at her drinking paterns. Her shopping patterns are also indicative of addictive behavior. She is searching for "the rush" that comes from whatever addiction she is hooked on and that can also be other men or skirting the law.
You also need to read up on self-destructive behavior.
Self destructive people often turn on and against those that try to help them, before they reach the bottom. It is not beyond the realm of what has happened elsewhere for her to try to have you arrested for threatening or beating her, to plant drugs in your car and call the police to arrest you.
Just because you don't want to recognize it, doesn't mean it is not happening.
Your highest priority is to protect your children. Then you need to protect yourself so that you will be there to protect and provide for your children and then later offer support to your wife, if she will accept it. Reach out to your wife's parents and tell them your fears and what you feel you need to do to protect your children and that you want to help your wife, but she doesn't want you in her life.
Just because you think she cann't get to your money, doesn't mean she can't do things that can ultimately cause you to loose all of your money (and your ability to support your children). For example, there are lots of drug asset forfeiture laws where your car, your home, etc. could be taken from you with limited immediate recourse. Just because you have done nothing wrong, may not stop a rouge government agency that wants to beef up its limited budget by taking some things you own and selling them for pennies on the dollar.
Protect your children. And yes to GAL and talk to an attorney to protect your assets, which most likely means getting the divorce she wanted ASAP.
Good luck to you and your family.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
