^^^^^ There's a lot of wisdom in that there post. ^^^^^
L, Take the focus off H and what he's doing and put it where it belongs, on you.
I know how hard that is because I've been where you are. Sometimes I still go there, and always end up with an OWWW on my finger. You'll find it's not worth it.
Even if you managed to stop your H from going on the dating sites, he will manage to find another way to sneak around. If you think about it, it's exactly the way teens act when you tell them, no.
Sweetie, I know how you're feeling, how much it hurts, and how scared you are. Please formulate a plan for yourself so you can move forward and know that you'll be OK no matter what happens. Once you do, you'll start to feel better. Do whatever it is you have to do to lookout for yourself. At this time you're the only one that is able to do that.
