You are right in that we should keep with our hobbies, friends and other interests when in a relationship... Very true..
However, what I want to get across to him here is that it should have been FUTURE backing off from his wife by doing and saying these types of things to her and not her doing it to him.
She is backing off... Which MEANS in reality that he has been pursuing too much. People don't back off when you aren't pursuing. It should be HIM backing off from her...
SHE HAD AN AFFAIR and very smartly got him to absolve her of any responsibility when she told him before they got back together that she didn't want him to hold it against her. Of course he fell for that ridiculous statement and now she again has the upper hand. She is basically telling him.. "I had an affair and if you hold it against me in any way shape or form then I am not getting back with you."
How is that for keeping HIM still in check huh?
And his instant reaction.."Oh no, I won't hold it against you, I already forgave you"..
He should have said something like this..
"Well, I am not sure how I feel right now about even getting back together. You are right in that I might hold it against you, so I need some time to think about whether I can really do that or not. I certainly don't want to hold it against you, but I have to be honest and tell you that I lost trust in you over this. And I have realized that I want to be with a woman I can trust. How am I to know that it wouldn't happen again? I think for now let's just take it one day at a time. Who knows maybe we will make better friends than lovers"
He gives her the same thing she is giving him.. Which is NOTHING.
