New here, not sure where to start

[irishblessings]

Taylor,

I am quite embarrassed to tell you to read my thread from about 2 weeks ago - however the way that I tried to confront my husband about the dating chat lines and such is something that I am not proud of. I wish I could go back but I am just trying to move forward and not let that scared, hurt, woman lead my decision making any longer.

The bottom-line: what do you hope to accomplish by asking him? You are pushing R talks and it is going to continue to push him away. You know what he is doing- you know that it is hurtful and embarrassing and humiliating. The whole thing is...

But here's the deal - YOU know. So does it change anything? In my mind it shouldn't. The whole thing is part of the craziness of MLC. It doesn't make sense - that's why YOU have to make sense. What are YOU doing to take care of yourself? Confronting him isn't taking care of yourself or defending yourself - it is just hurting him. YOU are better than that. Use this board to proclaim your hurt and humiliation - to him, be the model of calm acceptance and loveliness.

I know this is not easy! But it is the right thing to do! Do the next right thing:)

PS - I hope the senior members of the board are impressed with my use of capitals with the word YOU:) If I look back at my thread I think you all used it a million times:) OK - I'm getting it:)

Have a great day - I will check back in on you this evening!