Wii: So sorry. I can relate, though. My D is 21 and still pining over a boyfriend she broke up with 4 months ago. They're tried to stay friends which is just a BAD idea. When I can't take it anymore (the expectations, letdowns, suspicions and sobbing) she takes it all out on me.
D just visited the cottage for 22 hours. It was so painful. Angry because she got lost (refused my directions, took advice from ex BF instead), was ticked that Josh was here (he stayed to take her on his new boat and cook her steak), never lifted a finger and was rude the entire visit, then sobbing over a perceived slight from the ex. If he doesn't text her what she wants to hear when she wants to hear it - she is a mess. I suggested counselling and that went over like a lead balloon.
Sorry for dumping on your thread. I am at my wit's end.