Near WAW with EA - almost textbook sich

[doing my best]

OK....I am thankful for the feedback because it is confirming my own thoughts and now understand why it cannot get it out of my head.

We did talk about her old BF again (this is deep because they were almost engaged in college 24 years ago). She assures me over and over she HAS NOT had any contact with him. Not with his family and would not want a relationship even if there was an opportunity. I ask her if she understands what an emotional affair is and if she has read anything on that subject. She says
no. I suggest she may want to Google the term and read about it. She says she is not interested in doing that. Says I do not understand her position with old BF and while she still does have feelings for him they are not in the way of her healing
and our relationship progress. After everything I have read about EA's I am not so sure and still believe this is an area that really needs to be explored further by neutral MC. I ask her why she gets so irritated when I bring him up. She says because she does not want to think about him...calls me "Einstein" in regards to this concept. I bring up one key to the EA symptom and mention that she probably did discuss intimate details about our relationship which most
likely I would not want her to discuss. She agrees but says he discussed details of his broken relationship. She admits she still does miss him and miss talking to him. I also ask how after 3000 text messages in 2/12 months, she can go
cold-turkey. She says because she has been told by me and MC not to have contact during this process. I remind her that I asked her....not told.

Have asked MC during today's session or next with just her in room to explore and explain the dynamics of an EA and how it may still be blocking any progress even though she may not realize it. She does admit to me she HOPES she can get over her feelings for old BF and she does not want to think about him. Irritated
because I keep bringing him up.

I see that it is EA script and that you folks have confirmed that. Hope that MC can see that and expose this for better or worse.

That is all to report for now.

DMB