She's interested in another man. You still haven't called the meeting the order. She's not attracted to you. She knows you know and you still enable it - pay for her cell phone, let her live at home, still chase her, ask her what the plan is and put up with her CB.
Who is you wife more attracted to? Where does she spend her emotional energy? Who has her positive feelings? Why isn't it you? Understand the dynamics of atttraction between a man and woman.
I had a real simple plan. Make my goals. Then map out what to do (think). If it worked I kept it if not tried something new. I didn't let my perception cloud what the process would be. Don't try to understand what your W is thinking but what she is feeling. It's very easy to change someones feelings. To do it you have to change the way they think about something.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.