What a long strange trip it's been

[hopeforfuture]

I have been doing my best to act "as if" about her returning to our room. But for the last two morning I have returned to giving her a goodbye kiss on the cheek before I leave.(she is sleeping).

I need to preface my comment with a disclaimer that my advice may be way off base since my situation ended up in D, not reconciliation. Couldn't be my fault though, LOL.

Isn't the "As If" attitude primarily for those situations where the WAS is doing crazy things or trying to instigate an argument? Doc, I would think act of moving back into the bedroom should be responded to favorably. And the new sleeping arrangement (while you want to move slowly on the heavy physical action stuff) is a perfect oppurtunity for snuggling or spooning. Maybe some physical closeness without any pressure to go further will help move things along. Does she respond negatively if you put your arm around her? Baby steps. Enjoy the closeness without focusing on the act of sex. You should get an idea from her body language if it is a go / no go.

I have been trying to stay on my side of the bed. WAY on my side of the bed.. but last night durring her sleep (I guess) W actualy rolled over next to me.

That's a good sign. Reciprocate.