OR ELSE WHAT!!!!!??????? I cannot agree with Allen enough. Why is SHE calling the shots? Do NOT be around on Friday.
You have two choices? Says who? You have a million choices. Why is she dictating options to you. Everything you write is about what she says, what she might do. What do you want to do?
I can smell your fear from here. This is a 4x4 not a 2x4! Please realize you are fuc!ed. Going easy on her is NOT going to save your marriage. Allowing her to bully you is NOT going to save your marriage. Somehow you keep coming back to worrying about what might upset her. FORGET IT!
Your only chance rests with doing what is good for you and your self-respect. Your current, weakling stance on things will have you divorced at best or living as a cuckold in perpetuity at worst. Face it.
Not a single marriage that I can think of has been saved without this first step. What you are doing is NOT working. Please stop posting over and over about how bad she wants out and what fearful thing she might do to you if you don't bend over and take it. You know what??? If you bend over and take it, she's just gonna do more of it.
Trust the folks here, stand up to her, really stand up to her. try something different. It will throw her for a loop and she may get far more mad than she already is (I remember my wife drunk, crazy pissed, shouting obscenities at me, literally flailing around akin the tazmainian devil from the cartoons).
Standing up to her might get your wife back, if nothing else, it will get your balls back and you're gonna need those whether she stays or goes.
