So when I say no thanks to invites in the upcoming weeks, please know this is why
Interesting that her mindset is such that she is already the one that is "getting" the invites and gets the chance to say yes or no......this proves that her mind sees you as the pursuing person and her the one who is pursued. Chasing and pursuing a person who feels this way doesn't work.
How kind of her to tell you that when you ask her to do something she is warning you she is going to say no.
How would it sound if it was YOU saying to her.. "If I don't ask you to do anything for the next six months or so, don't be offended. I just want to go out and take up another hobby and go sing in the bars for a few months to see how I am going to feel about you. I will let you know in six months or so. Thanks for being there for me."??????
That mindset tells you all you need to know..
You are misreading her..
Women don't make it complicated when they WANT to be with you.... When a woman WANTS to be with you nothing will stop them.
So, you can make excuses for her all you want. She just doesn't feel it for you again.. You went too much too fast..
She chased you in the beginning of your relationship and then you had her chasing you again when you let go and she thought you had someone else. You then started chasing her again. YOU are talking too much about the relationship. I don't care whether you are doing it in a vague way or not. It is feminine to talk too much about the relationship. SHE even told you it drained her. YOU should have stopped the relationship talk on the date long before you did. When a relationship talk drains a woman, THAT means that it isn't a good talk.
She is they type that needs to feel she is the one chasing. She will never admit to this, but it IS the reality. She needed to chase you in the beginning, she chase the OM around the world, she then chased you to get you back, she now has you (her words of "if I say no to invitations" shows it is you asking and chasing in her mind) and NOW she wants to chase another hobby..(or is it something else)
She doesn't FEEL it for you. When a woman likes you in the right way she still has her hobby AND you. She is just blowing you off because you have been nice to her and she doesn't want to hurt you and she wants to see if you will go along with this new charade. If you do, then it will be something else.
Don't be a fool.
Just now catching up, Future, after being sick as a dog yesterday. I agree with Gucci's assessment, fwiw, and I've followed your sitch as you know from the beginning.
There are ways to honor your wife's request for "space" while not going all pursuing/needy/grabby on her. It's going to take a deft touch for you to reply, but I think you have it in you, judgment from your current mindset.
