lala, That is a great escape, and as you know I am a big proponent of great escapes, hence "little friday". Glad those work for you I need to pick up some fiction but have not been able too.
Originally Posted By: lala09
...do you really want more?
Unless your list includes some more boyish fiction, I am good...LOL.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
MHL-I've heard of some men getting into the Twilight books...just sayin'!
lolawar-Thanks for the recommendation! I have a huge list of books that I want to read on the Bookcrawler iPhone app. I get so much pleasure marking it off once I am finished. I am currently reading How Did You Get This Number by Sloane Crosley (she is probably my favorite author), and A Wild Ride Up the Cupboards by Ann Bauer.
Made a roundtrip drive yesterday to drop a load of our things back at the house since it won't all fit in my car at once. H offered to take the dog so I dropped him off as well. H texted me the night before leaving asking to let him know when I arrive so he could come and help me. I responded later with 'Thanks, but it'll be quick and I can handle it. Goodnight.' My Dad accompanied me down to help out. The house was taken care of and it looked like H had just mowed the lawn. I unpacked our things and headed back out. I texted H to say I was done and that our cat was loud (he meows a lot for attention). He responded soon after and said the cat yells at him every day and to drive safe.
So I think we're in a good place headed into my return next weekend. H is spending the weekend at our friends lake house. I had planned to attend this annual event but I had previously committed to a girls weekend on Lake Erie. I'll probably officially return home Sunday night. I must say that it was so nice to be back in my home...it just felt right
MHL-I've heard of some men getting into the Twilight books...just sayin'!
I went and saw Eclipse with my daughter last week, does that count?? LOL
Originally Posted By: lala09
H is spending the weekend at our friends lake house. I had planned to attend this annual event but I had previously committed to a girls weekend on Lake Erie. I'll probably officially return home Sunday night. I must say that it was so nice to be back in my home...it just felt right
Great GALing, and it sounds like you are right where you need to be. Time and Patience are key from now on, come here to vent and get the support you will need on your journey. Your doing Great!
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Venting! Back before my recent freak out, I asked H about his relationship with a female coworker because some of the things he said sounded an awful lot like how he talked about the first OW he had an EA with. He said it was nothing but that if I didn't want him to, he wouldn't go to social events that she attended. I just told him to be aware of it but I did find it strange that he offered to stop seeing her.
So today I emailed him about some things concerning my return. He responded and mmtioned that he had meetings each evening with his boss and new OW this week and may not get to see DD that much. Why did he mention who his meetings were with? I know I'm supposed to be GAL and I joy doing that, I'm just a little stung by this.
the whole establishing friend thing, would have to go back burner if he were engaged in an active ongoing A.
You could read ltaylor's thread there is alot in there about affairs and MLC. The fact that he is talking about her alot is not incriminating in of itself but certainly noteworthy.
I would keep an eye out. What kinds of things does he say about her?
He admitted to the first EA, right?
Maybe trying to cover this one by telling you about her which would explain any unusual contact you may discover, nights and weekends, etc.
Is there anything else that might lead you to think he is having an A?
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
I just know that they work together a lot, and there are business trips that I know she is involved in. I usually ask about his work and the people involved and I know that she knows our situation, and he knows that she is finalizing a D and has a kind of messed up family...when I asked how he knew that, he just said that they were good friends.
When I asked him straight out if there was anything between them, it was only a few days before my blow up. So like 3 weeks ago. I'm wondering if he just mentioned her today to get some sort of rise out of me because he now knows she is on my radar.
Ugh, I don't want to be thinking about those possibilities. And I know she will be on the business trip he will embark on for 5 days shortly after we return home.
I guess I'm just more bummed because just this morning my MIL was stating how she is so impressed with how respectful H and I have been to each other throughout this whole thing and that gave me a spark more of hope.
He did admit to it eventually, but had kept in undercover for 7 months. He then ended it the day after it came into the light, and I really do believe that and that there hasn't been any contact since. Also interesting is that new close friend lady is/was friends with initial OW.
