Hi Gucci, interesting thoughts and you're right about a lot of them. I still think, though, that sometimes we want love to be all encompassing, to take us over, that kind of falling sensation that turns out doesn't last forever. Then when its gone, we don't really know what to do. I have several Indian friends with arranged marriages--their perspective is so different. It seems they don't fall in love, they "grow" in love. My dread for my BF is that I was going to call him to say that I had some other plans during the week with friends, and I thought that would make him feel bad. I felt that I SHOULD want to spend every free minute with him. But in my marriage, that's what I did--I cut out friends and hobbies and ended up feeling lost. I think we still need to hold on to those things, even in a relationship. And Future and his wife and all of us need to nuture that part of ourselves without it being threatening. I think marriages would be more sustainable over the long haul if people did that instead of becomming so identified as a "couple". So, that's what I was trying to say, I guess.
