Personally, I haven't read your entire thread, but whether they are said aggressively or not, they are confrontational. The sages here say that when the WH comes home the real hard work begins. And that includes smiling quietly and lovingly when what you really want to do is bash them over the head. Believe me, I know this.
The real question, I suppose, is if he is really there to work out your R, or just didn't have anywhere better to go? If the answer is B, well, the rolling pin is in the kitchen.
