Ok, enough of my drama, time to read up on someone else's.lol.
D, you are a tough, tough girl. You definitely put up a tough exterior that hides a lot of emotion. As someone else posted, you jump to mindread others, so you don't have to actually interact with them and find out if you are right or wrong.
And you jump to a lot of the most negative of conclusions. Your H was no stranger to this trait of yours.
Poeple are drawn to the positive. You are working on that. Don't be surprised if your H is CONFLICTED that you are now a bundle of smiles and positivity. And getting the attraction of others. Why couldn't he have been the recipient of this? In his mind you may be treating strangers better than you treated him.
How would you feel if you witnessed your H spending lavishly on a new person? How does he feel that you are positive and smiling with someone else? If your friends can "see" that this guy is interested in you, don't you think your H has picked up on this?
I think it's a positive myself. If he was over you, he would be happy for you. He doesn't seem too happy.
