Hope you take this in the spirit given, Chuck, but it sounds as if there aren't many boundaries for the children. Your son is probably reacting to other things more than his grandfather...b/c he was so young at that time.
What method of discipline does the daughter receive when she bosses her brother around and "controls" his life? She is setting herself up to be that type of woman when she grows up.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
