Kat, you are SO RIGHT!! He is going to be "sleeping in his own mess" for a while--why should I rescue him??
I got the book by Dobson that they use over in Infedelity so much--Love must be Tough. I LOVE this book!!
Finally a book that addresses HOW this disrespect begins--OMG!! I think this should be required reading before you marry!
Througout this book what I am doing and why this is working is completely validated. My H has lost respect for me, he has wanted to see "boundaries" out of me, and now that I am getting a backbone, it is making him curious! Wow!
So yesterday the workers were out again. I had the second set of pocket doors removed and some electrical boxes moved. They were here until 9 and I had just gotten home from school, and was worried about my H coming home soon, and so missed that they did a few weird things (hooked up a light to a switch meant for a fan). Fixable, but my H picked up on it right away. So he started his "spew".
I let him have it! Told him in a growly voice that he needed to thank me for all the work I'm doing and knock that out! (I had just read a few chapters of Dobson's book and was feeling particularly feisty).
OMG--did he back down.lol. APOLOGIZED FOR BEING CRANKY!!! Ok, I have to write that once more: APOLOGIZED FOR BEING CRANKY!!
So then he told me a few more "ideas" he had had for this room, which--hello--DONE!!
I am doing a flippin ton of work here--don't you DARE be Mr. Cranky Pants with me Buster!!
I am actualy itching for a reason to throw him out. According to Dobson, when they are in this pity-party state, this is what needs to happen. I really think he would respond well. We have a trailer right down the road that he could live it--heck--he said that while he was fixing it up it was taking so long because he thought I was going to kick him out any minute--he WANTS to be stopped from himself. Wow!!!
I'd have a lot of fun if he was gone!lol. Oh, the things me and my handyman would do....hahahaha!
