Par4me, thank you for your advice. must admit, I HATE this feeling of being so 'under his thumb'. I wish I could just tell him to P*ss off and make a choice. I really do. I've thought about it so many times. Problems are a.) I'm a gentle person by nature, and I've been letting him get away with walking over me for so long, I dont know how to do it b.) I'm terrified of unleashing his angry scorpio fury, I hate being hated , cause I'm a soft loving soul c.) If he's in a MLC he might just go away and stop having anything to do with S4 completely, ie I push him over the edge.
I dont want to make things worse than they are, somedays REALLY feel like progress, so I'm scared of having gotten this far only to muck it up. I'm wanting to try the tolerance,then friends,then romance, then R thing. But think I'm wavering between the tolerance/frienship stages. And I KNOW its ALL about patience. So I'm scared to lose my patience and set that ultimatum...you know?
Really get so confused as to what to do.....just sticking with the path of least resistance for now, knowing that it could lead somewhere....