The Court of King Caractacus

[lees]

It's a bit tricky. I work in the macho world of Emergency Medicine where you're expected to just grin and bear whatever the world throws at you. I've already been working intermittently with the OW for the last 6 months, and the attitude of my bosses in the main is just "be professional, keep your personal life out of it." The fact that I didn't ask for my colleague to have an affair with my wife seems totally lost on them. I wasn't the one that mixed up my professional with my personal life - the evil OW did that for me. My STBXW has nothing to do with medicine.

We're all on 3 or 4 year training rotations which are decided well in advance and spread across large geographical regions so it's very difficult to reorganise as it messes up the staffing across about 4 counties if one of us moves, and then also impairs the ability of the hospital to provide Emergency Care if it's suddenly missing a senior doc. So I'm stuck with it.

I stopped wanting the STBXW back months ago. She does not set an example I want for my future offspring. But I do still want a bit of my faith in the world restored. To believe again that living a decent and honest life is worthwhile, as opposed to leaving a catastrophic trail of destruction and hurt behind you yet getting everything you wanted.

I can only forget about it (and do very nicely) during the rare spells where I don't have to work with that evil cow. The rest of the time it's in my face and I can't do anything about it. I can't even change jobs easily as recruitment is a national process which only occurs once a year and it is career suicide to quit at the wrong time in a very competitive field.