I just noticed your ILYBINILWY was 5 days after mine and I got her two days before you. You gained three days right off the bat.
Weird.
Bugs me a bit that you seem more together but I guess our sitch's are a little different (no PA so far for you) and I guess it's always "easier to see the road when you're not driving"
It's funny how if our situations were "someone else's, we'd have an easier time making the right choices and give the right advice"