W came back from picking up some stuff I asked for that she left at a friends.
During bathtime, Calla poured a cup of water on her BBerry. And the itdidn't work. (Here's an idea,don't take it into bathtime, you addict. I'll remind her tomorrow now that thedrama is over, "I will remind you that texting in the presence of Calla or I is disrespectful. Perhaps the water incident was a nice warning"
So, she aske 'What do I do"
I told her to get the battery out and don't plug it in. Dry it. It could take overnight but it's all I know'
I said you could look it up on the web to see if yoycan get the faceplate off and dry it faster
So she does and askes for my electronics toolset.
To make a long story short, I took the phone apart for her and after an hour it was dry. She reassembled and it work. She said 'Yippee, it works" with a tone I recognized n the old days. The words that should have follwed were 'Thank yo very much" Yeah, the oold days.
Did I help her and get drawn into her drama? Yes. But I NEEDED that phone to work for the text. I don't know why she needed it because he's going, too. I'm going to hang out near the place they hang out and see if I can catch them together to make sure they're in one vehicle.
Anyway, it really bothers me that she looks and sounds like the girl I married other than the disconection.
And D acted out again when W left the house for a cigarette. that's twice. And my presence doesn't fix it. My throughts are that W spends so little quality time with D that the slightest absence causes a freak out.
Ready for tomorrows text? Not really. But I have to do something before she's completely gone. If she isn't already.
But I need to generate my self-respect and stop her hiding and lying.
I want everyobe to know that I admit my 50% of the marriage problem, but the only reson this family is being destroyed is because of an affair. And, MAYBE, if she stops it, I'll consider accepting her back. But that will be MY decision.
I promise in the next couple days I will get "into" your thread.
I was feeling pretty alone here tonight. Puppy is sick as a dog (pun intended)
My tendency is to talk to much and explain. I'll have to really tune into another character. I'd say Spock but I need 'some emotion' in order to seem 'lovingly detached' and show her that I have "let go"
Seems odd to "let go" and then 'expose the affair in an effort to stop it'
I just noticed your ILYBINILWY was 5 days after mine and I got her two days before you. You gained three days right off the bat.
Weird.
Bugs me a bit that you seem more together but I guess our sitch's are a little different (no PA so far for you) and I guess it's always "easier to see the road when you're not driving"
It's funny how if our situations were "someone else's, we'd have an easier time making the right choices and give the right advice"
I woke up this morning and checked to make sure my GPS thingy was working. It showed at the airport Park and Jet. WTF?
Sure enough, the truck is gone. Left the house at 5:30. Damn, I even thought about putting the GPS in her bag but thought it was too risky.
So, feigning dumb, I text "I didn't even hear you leave. Drive safely" She read it but no reply. So I send "But the mountains will be fun in the SportTrac" Hasn't even read it. So now I can't see where she is.
She said she is meeting up with her mom in Kelowna. I figured for sure they'd take the truck. His tires are bald. Damn.
So, sometime in the next two hours or so, I gotta send the interruptus. I just need to verify HIS truck is at the airport and/or he's not working til Monday. I can't believe she flew. And now has to rent a vehicle.
I'm choked.
Just checked the airline and there is an 8 am flight so she "may" have had to turn the phone off. I just emailed a friend who works there to see if he can get a look at the passenger list. Hoping he's on, too. More for the file.
It's GO TIME right now in my life and I need all the advice and support I can get.
We're supposed to "talk" today and she leaves for "Infidelus Vacationus" in the morning. And I'm sure she'll be staying with him tonight. So this will be my last chance to see her face to face.
So if there is a Dobson/Gucci or PDT hybrid I need to lay out there today, I need to memorize it NOW.
And still planning the "Interuptus text" in the morning.
I'm just hoping she hasn't caught on and plans to pre-empt my exposure with an admission. Unlikely but I'd be stuck with "bottom hand" again.
My advice to you hasn't changed, CD, even tho you seem to have been 4x 'round the world and back. Shoot her the infidelitus interruptus text as she leaves, and then confront when she returns.
'I hope what you're doing is worth it. I've been thinking about this alot. I deserve better than this. We'll have some details to discuss briefly. They'll be big changes when you get back'
(Some interruptus and some letting go at once) Enough? Too much?
'I hope what you're doing is worth it. I've been thinking about this alot. I deserve better than this. We'll have some details to discuss briefly. They'll be big changes when you get back'
(Some interruptus and some letting go at once) Enough? Too much?
Shoot her the