Kalni, I'm sure this has been discussed before...I don't remember. My interpretation of his failure to say ILY is precisely because he DID say it to OW. Could he feel ashamed of throwing those precious words around in an affair? Perhaps he really hesitates to use them now, not fully trusting his own judgement? Some men clam up when they get tangled up. With so much scrutiny of the "progress" in piecing, it's understandable to me that he would hold back spontaneous expressions like that. IMO 8 months is not actually that long given the timeline of your sitch.
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me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
