You are right Eric...although I disagree with the "provide me happiness" part...I will replace that with "prove my attractiveness".
I am generally a happy person.
I think after the self esteem blows- I needed to prove to myself that I "still had it".
When I met this new guy...I really needed to know that "someone" found me attractive. I needed this reassurance. I met this guy the first night after me and my H decided to D.
He did just that..this guy made me feel attractive again..sought after again. I do realize that I need to figure out a way to feel "attractive" again without the reassurance of someone else. Perhaps that will come in time. Suggestions welcome.