So sorry you're here. You've gotten some great advice so far. That's a good place to start. Easier said than done but you've got to focus on yourself and your kids right now. You should have a hearing on the RO soon. If your L is worth anything at all, that should get lifted unless she has grounds (though it doesn't sound like it). Do whatever you have to do to get visitation in place but don't contact your W. Have your L slow things down so you have time to consider what you really want and hopefully give your W some time to think about what she's doing.
By the way, when you are posting, be sure to break things up into paragraphs so it's easier to read.
