He wants a skinny athletic younger woman to have children with. I'm not any of those things.
Two of those by choice, I'll point out. The age...ehhh...younger? Pffpt.
Look speaking as a guy who has battled weight all my adult life. You can either blast the skinny pretty people consol yourself that if God wanted you to be one of them he'd make ribs out of zero calories...or you can do something about it and improve your health.
Speaking as a chubby guy trying to be less chubby.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Jack, I'm working on the weight thing. I don't have that much left to go. And I work out almost every day so I am toning up. I actually look pretty good..at least better than I did when this thing blew up. I'm not bitter t think people because they're thin. I jsut think there is more to a person than what they look like.
I didn't think my H was working out and getting all muscle-ly so that he could find someone else. He told me he was doing it for his health. Now that things are pretty much over with the A, he's looking for another one instead of coming back my direction. I hadn't prepared for that.
PS for 'many' around here now is the dinner or driving home time. Not the best time for activity as for talking this is not the place for the exchange of personal information. Other places might allow it, but not there.
You seem smart. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Taylor, If you want to speak to someone, you might want to go to Facebook and address your concerns there.
Also, you can change your name and I bet most of us would know who you are by the way you post.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He's bound and determined to have more kids at his age..before it's too late, he says. I think it's already too late and he should just enjoy his grandkids, but I can't make that decision for him.
He just called me to let me know that I might want to go down the basement cuz of the tornado. He's 2 hours away so he can't see the weather here. The sirens haven't gone off yet, so I'm ok. I told him the day I had with my grandson (horrible) and how I haven't been able to apply for that job..and I started to cry and told him I wished he was here. Stupid. and weak.
I'm am working on mine & feel so much better about myself. I have a loooonnnnggggg way to go, and I still have some hangups about how I look (some... lol, if you know me you are laughing at the word *some*)--I think I probably always will...
BUT
I am much happier than I was, even if the only person who is happy with me is me.
I was at a party on Saturday & when some friends of friends heard I was recently separated, they turned to this one man standing in the back of the group and said, "Oh, we should introduce you to Kevin!! Keeevvviiiinnnnn!!!! <gigglegiggle>"
Kevin's response, "Oh, God...no." while shaking his head.
The old me would have thought it had something to do with my looks or my weight or my whatever.
The new me didn't take it personally. Especially since I was thinking the exact same thing & it had nothing to do with him. (actually my mind was screaming, "are you freaking kidding me????" lol!)
I'm going to go out on a limb here & guess that Kevin has issues just as big as mine right now when it comes to Rs.
Anyway... my point. And I do have one...
My new philosophy when it comes to me...
If you don't like the peaches, then walk on by the tree. (nickel Joss)
That's all I'm saying.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
