Awest, I can only imagine the pain you and a lot of people on this site have had to go through. At least STBXW has the decency -- if that's the right word -- not to flaunt it in the face of the girls.
The OM stuff is soooo tough. One of my best friends is getting divorced and his situation is similar to mine in that everyone on the outside thought they had an ideal marriage. His is different in that they were both very smart with money and still trust each other so the D is happening quickly and they'll both be fine financially.
I digress. Something he said early on in our talks really hit home. If they could divorce and she NEVER found someone else he would be fine with it. He wants to feel loved again and they went through counseling for three years and she said it wasn't there. But he still loves her and he can't imagine the pain of her loving someone else.
That's very selfish but true probably for a lot of us.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
