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[ClingingToHope]

You have to get tough with him. Box up his stuff and drop it off at his parents house or send him a text saying it's going to the curb if he doesn't pick it up.

I'd drop the stuff off at the parents house. You may look like a b*tch for doing so, but don't you have to wake them up to? Aren't they enabling his behavior?

Why did you choose him, anyway? Just curious.

I've been asking myself that question. I met STBXW when I was 18 and she was 16 and she was gorgeous. She was the pretty one in the group who never talked. She always had this air of mystery to her and her silence intimidated me because I've always kind of needed affection.

After college, I ran into her again totally blitzed out of my mind and don't remember any of a 30-minute conversation that apparently so impressed her she spent the next six months trying to manufacture a way to "bump" into me.

When we finally did run into each other her best friend had to tell a friend of mine to ask her out because I never would have.

So when things progressed I never really doubted we were perfect for each other even though there were alarm bells. I was very into the idea of us.