Sorry to read your sitch. Glad you found this website. It is a great place for support.
There is a chance your wife has gotten involved with another man. There are lots of red flags in your posts. I strongly suggest that you gather some intel to confirm if there is OP involved.
Puppy Dog Tails gives good advise on how to do this. Read through his posts: Puppy Dog Tails POST
I would focus your energy right now on your relationship with your two kids. That is what is important right now. It is also very important right now to control your emotions. I would go see a L asap and find out what your parenting rights are.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
