Just from looking at the dates, I would say you really aren't ready to date again, no matter how wonderful the guy may be. You have not regained your balance and neither have your kids. It took nearly 3 years for my kids to start to get comfortable being kids again. I know everyone is different, but you still need to feel good about yourself by yourself before you even think of bringing someone else into the mix.
Personally, unless I was serious about a guy, I wouldn't be introducing him to my kids. You don't know where this relationship is going, I don't blame your kids for being uncomfortable. I would say for now keep the BF separate from the kids time and let them get over the dissoulution of their family.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
