I don't know what to do ...

[Ready2Change]

I think I would like to take your advice Coach and take the rest of the day off

That would be good. Go do something you enjoy....

I have gotten the names of 2 lawyers. ... and then tomorrow start putting in some calls. Should I meet with both to see who I like ? Or is it pretty much the same deal wherever I go ?

Get initial consolations set up with both. Bring a list of questions....

Is this state equal equity?
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Should I make him leave tonight ? we still sleep in the same bed, should I make him leave or make him at least sleep on the couch ? Should I pack up some bags for him now ?

I would take over the master bedroom. Pack all his things from MB and put them in the spare room. If he asks, "I have decided you are right. This M isn't working and not what I want. I feel this sleeping arrangement is best until you find a new place to live."