Still trying to find my way

[Mystik]

Found out why H wanted to talk to me so bad last night. I listened to his voice mail and answering machine messages from last night this morning. He said he had a question regarding therapy for DS that he e-mailed me yesterday but wasn't sure if I had returned to work after the session and to please call him and stop avoiding him. Naturally I didn’t call him. Got to work this morning and read his e-mail. I am starting to think he has some sort of mental or emotional deficiency that he honestly can't tell what lines he's crossing or how much he's hurting me. This is his message:

What do you think about having a group appointment with DS? Because that is a very big part of the issue, I think it would be a good idea for it to be DS with you, me & OW.

My response was very simple: "No." Not sure if he got it or not, he didn't e-mail me back.

Called We the People this morning. The people there are very pro-divorce, she wasn’t quite sure what to make of me saying I didn't want a divorce. The woman I spoke to was somewhat helpful. Said H cannot file as the plaintiff and accuse himself of constructive abandonment. I asked what happens if I refuse to sign and she said there is a way to get a default divorce and depending on circumstances they may be able to assist him with filing for that. But it would be best for me to consult a lawyer to see what my options are regarding refusing to sign. So I e-mailed my lawyer saying that when I get served I would be enlisting her services, but right now I was curious as to what could legally happen to me if I refused to sign. She said, "If you refuse to sign then it becomes a contested divorce proceeding and you would have to appear in front of a judge. If you are contesting grounds but the grounds are true a judge will not be happy. But if you are honestly disputing the grounds in good faith then you are entitled to do that." So I guess if/when I get served and sit down with her I will have to go more in depth on this question.