You just got hit with another bomb but you are better able to handle it.
Take care of your self the rest of the day.
Pray
Exercise
Call a friend
Eat
Sleep
Play with your kids
No R talks - don't get baited into a fight
In the morning you find a lawyer, you get your finances seperated, and you get serious about DBing. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I have gotten the names of 2 lawyers. I think I would like to take your advice Coach and take the rest of the day off and then tomorrow start putting in some calls.
Should I meet with both to see who I like ? Or is it pretty much the same deal wherever I go ?
Should I make him leave tonight ? we still sleep in the same bed, should I make him leave or make him at least sleep on the couch ? Should I pack up some bags for him now ?
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
I think I would tell him that you would be more comfortable with him on the couch. Not sure I would actually kick him out, at least not until you have protected yourself financially.
I think I would like to take your advice Coach and take the rest of the day off
That would be good. Go do something you enjoy....
Originally Posted By: Shelby
I have gotten the names of 2 lawyers. ... and then tomorrow start putting in some calls. Should I meet with both to see who I like ? Or is it pretty much the same deal wherever I go ?
Get initial consolations set up with both. Bring a list of questions....
Is this state equal equity? . . .
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Should I make him leave tonight ? we still sleep in the same bed, should I make him leave or make him at least sleep on the couch ? Should I pack up some bags for him now ?
I would take over the master bedroom. Pack all his things from MB and put them in the spare room. If he asks, "I have decided you are right. This M isn't working and not what I want. I feel this sleeping arrangement is best until you find a new place to live."
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Well he just called, My phone was off so he called both my Daughters phones also, Trying to see where I was.
When I get on the phone he keeps asking- Did you go to work today ? How was work ? He kept hinting around but wouldnt ask about the papers. Finally I said Look I am not going to play this game if there is something you want to know just ask you know darn well what happened to me at work today. He just stuttered for a sec.
He said we need to talk,I said about what ? he said about telling the Girls, we need to go to the bank and seperate our accounts
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Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
This is scary [censored]. I was a stay at home mom for ten years, I ent back to work,retail 5 years ago, Part time. I can not afford anything on my own.My house is in my Husbands name alone, he inherrited it 6 months before we were married, and never added my name. Although I have lived her for 20 years. I am a almost 3 year breast cancer survivor, I am under my Husbands insurrance. I am still under Doctors care.
I am scared.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
When he called 30 minutes ago, he started telling me what i need at the grocery store, toilet paper, and trash bags, I said you don't have to worry about all of that anymore, I know how to take the trash out. Then i giggled because of the double meaning there. And then I hung up.
Just thought that was funny.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
