Training for a Marathon, Hoping for a Sprint

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Was reading some other threads and I thought I would add something here I hadn't seen mentioned before. The prevailing attitude seems to be that the person involved in the EA/PA won't ever come clean. It was just the opposite for me. I had never asked or talked to her about it, but I had become suspicious for a couple of reasons. I actually checked up on her, something I never thought I would do. The night she told me, we were having supper and I was intent on what she had to say and she started tearing up. She blamed it on allergies or something in her eye and we went on. When we left the restaurant, we were in separate vehicles and I got back about 10 minutes after her. She had a note she had written with her confession and was in tears. Her reason for telling me was that she thought that I had an inkling something was going on, and she didn't understand why I treating her so well in spite of that. Something along the lines of "how could you keep being so nice to me when you thought I was doing that to you?" Of course, my answer was because I love you and thought I was just being a little crazy.

Doesn't change where I am now, just thought I would throw out there that sometimes the betraying spouse does come clean.

Day 3 NC is ok. Had to text that I was transferring money to our son's account and she ended up texting back offering to do it after the fact, but that has been it. I will admit that I miss her and her voice, but all that means is that I am human. Heading to a meeting for work that will last a few hours and then going to a small group cookout at the home of a friend. Won't know anyone else there, but I am looking forward to some fellowship and enjoyment playing cards and hanging out.