I don't know what to do ...

[koliver0821]

I didnt/haven't gone through what your experiencing. I did get the ILY But speech. However, if he served you. Get a lawyered up. STAT. He served you by talking to an attorney. he wants a "quickie" divorce because he doesnt want it to cost a bunch of money. Your answer, who cares. If you have joint lawyer, one that he found, who is to say he is working in your best interest? Hence, get your own attorney. Cover your butt as quickly as possible.

If he wants to truly find out what divorce is like, let him feel the full pain. Make him move out. Immediately. You can say something along the lines. Its obvious to me now that you truly mean what you have been saying all along. I am not sure why I wasn't getting it but now that I have, I think I will need to talk to my attorney to get my affairs in order..

You haven't mentioned anything specific regarding reasons as to why your marriage was rocky. Sadly, I got to the point that I think the main reason why marriages dont work is that communication is lacking at times and at those specific times, there is someone willing to listen to our spouses. They get involved and think the grass is greener.

Your husband needs to know that your arent available at his beck and call. Im not sure I my post is too late. Don't cancel your plans with your friend. It truly sounded like an ambush to me. He knows you will you come running.

Out of curiosity, what are his spending habits? Is he spending more money when he goes out or works late, etc??

Did I mention to get a Lawyer??? (I meant to say it 50 times)