Man, I don't know how you pulled off waiting this long for everything.
Not waiting, Time...Detatching and working on MYSELF. Detatchment is an art well worth cultivating...in using the time to work on myself, I can definitely say that I have become a much better person. And I move forward...not move on....just forward.
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
When my W was talking about leaving, and I figured there was nothing I could do about it, I pretty much resolved to go on with my life.
Exactly.
That's all you can do. It has taken me a good deal of reflection (and education) on what SHE is going through for me to be able to have developed the compassion for her that has helped me go through all of this. She is trying to find her way. Maybe she finds her way back to me...maybe she doesn't. All I can do is continue to move forward.
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
In fact, she took the day off to pack for the movers, and at one point she came to me and asked what I was thinking, so I told here what I was thinking: "It's going to be really weird not talking you anymore except when we make the divorce arrangements and sign the papers".
She balked at that and started crying. She didn't leave much to my suprise.
Sounds like the dose of reality you gave her made her wake up a little at the very least. Stay in touch.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
It doesn't F with my head so much, Jack, as much as it's.........a curiosity. And just one more reminder to me that she's in an MLC.
I'm not going to ask her a damn thing. My concern is that either of those actions would be ignored at best, or make her so uncomfortable that she'd disappear completely at worst. Nope- I'm only going to "speak when spoken to" (unless absolutely necessary), and when I do respond to her, it will be with the utmost courtesy and respect that I have always shown her, and with love in my heart. She's the one who will have to deal with the aftermath of her own feelings about it.
Kill 'em with kindness.
Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
BTw I got all my DLs done for L4D the original.
Hmph...not sure WHEN you'd have the time to do that, since I only ever see you playing Battlefield: Bad Co. 2 anymore.....either that or Peggle.
...and here I thought you said that Peggle sucked...
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
Just another tidbit posted for anyone who follows in my footsteps:
I really debated whether to post this at all. It's such a curiosity, and judging from the fact that my xw has just flat-out dropped off the face of the earth in all respects, it's probably not even her......
Still.
One morning, several weeks back before the July 4th holiday, I was leaving my home to go to work. I have a set of rose bushes that grow next to my door, along the front of my place. As I was locking my door, I looked at the rose bush next to me and made a mental note that the two dead roses on the top of it really looked bad, and that I ought to do something about it after I get back from work.
I come back from work to find that that section of my rose bush has been pruned off. I asked later, and to my surprise, neither of my neighbors, nor my parents had come by and done this.
It could have been somebody else, and if my xw's behavior is any indicator, it probably was.
But most people want LIVING roses- even if they only wanted a cutting to start their own plant, there were other plants and sections with living blooms...What gives? The world may never know.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
Heya Jack- I haven't seen any goth chicks hangin' round my door lately.....Emo chicks? That's another story.
I've been focused on rehabilitating my house and claiming it back from the trash repository it became when I slipped into my black funk after my D. Now instead of just sitting on my a$$ and thinking about "really needing to do it" while I blast the $#!+ outta zombies on the XBox, I'm actually DOING IT!
Though I must admit that the self-imposed reward of permitting myself to unbox and hook up my new 46 in. flat-panel once I'm done is an excellent motivator!
What's going on in your little slice of our 49th state?
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
