Wife isn't sure about marriage...

[Allen A]

SG, you can hang out at home just have friends there or something to run interference for you... SHe's not going to blast you when they are thee...

The thing is.. YOU didn't do anything WRONG...

I don't reccomend you hiding, but I don't reccomend you standing there and accepting a nuclear exposion eitehr.

I think its important to be prepared to face her... If you hide out then YOU look like a COWARD just like the OM!

What you WANT to do is RECORD teh conversation quietly using your blackberry or something...

If she gets mean then tell her you will not be disrespected any further and walk CALMNLY away like you would to a teenager...

If you wnat to be out legitimately then do that, but I don't reccomend hiding.. You have seveal options, just do'nt do smoething that woudl make you appear cowardly as if you did something wrong... That's the OM's speciality... YOU should be setting an example of adulthood here... to CONTRRAST yourself to OM

[someguy1233]

I'm having a down moment. I should have slept more last night.
I've watched the text message counts this morning... She's had over 100 messages back and forth with him in only four hours. Sickening.

[Allen A]

Yep.. You gotta get this guy confronted FAST

Did you read Overcomming Infidelity eBook yet?

http://24.141.121.163/OveromingInfidelity.pdf

[someguy1233]

Yep.. You gotta get this guy confronted FAST

Did you read Overcomming Infidelity eBook yet?

http://24.141.121.163/OveromingInfidelity.pdf

I haven't read that. The link doesn't appear to work. Is this the ebook? http://www.symcinc.com/getstuff/ebook.html

[Allen A]

Sorry, I just mistpelt Overcoming and used the wrong ip

http://24.141.78.27/OvercomingInfidelity.pdf

[Allen A]

Yes it is... its an electronic copy you can read... feel free to purchase from teh site if you like... you can give my pdf a test drive

[someguy1233]

Sorry, I just mistpelt Overcoming and used the wrong ip

http://24.141.78.27/OvercomingInfidelity.pdf

That is a great read, thank you very much.
I'll read it again later.

[Allen A]

I will warn you now, fighting for your marriage is NOT for the faint of heart or the timid of spine...

This is NOT easy and it can be painful... But its worth it... You will learn a LOT about yourself on the journey...

[Quicksilver264]

I will warn you now, fighting for your marriage is NOT for the faint of heart or the timid of spine...

This is NOT easy and it can be painful... But its worth it... You will learn a LOT about yourself on the journey...

I second this. At the beginning of this I was a complete puddle. Not saying I am a man of steel yet, but I have my moments of real strength.

Basically your WAS is taking the EASY and QUITTERS route. YOU HOWEVER, are sucking it up and doing some HARD work.

The WAS "thinks" what they are doing is "hard". But they will be condemned to repeat the SAME mistakes over again.

Whether you succeed or not, you WILL NOT make the same mistakes again.

This is an absolutely brutal process. And that's what it is; a PROCESS. You get stronger as time goes on.

Just learn from the rest of us and where our snags were so you don't make the same mistake.

[someguy1233]

$&@&&&@!!!!

I just spoke with her mom. She didn't tell her she knew about the A.
Her mom said she was actually listening to her for a change and feels that W and I really just need to talk some more and figure this out. She fealt that telling her she knew about the A right now would just cause her to shut down.

Her mom advises that I give her some space and stay in the guest room. She says to continue to openly talk to her.

I tried but can't seem to convince her that I KNOW that W will feel betrayed and that's what needs to happen.

$@)@"!!!!!!!