New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

You will never have complete and total NC when kids are involved.

The only thing you can do is limit contact to things about the children.

Make contact however it works best. And get that stuff sorted out so that you're not stressing at the last minute. (Question - did she always coordinate stuff previous to your S? Has she since?) Would it be more of a 180 for you to wait for her, or take the initiative?

Carlos is dead on.

Respect is about you. Treat yourself with respect, treat her and the kids with respect. Don't let yourself be treated without respect - get out of situations when that happens.

Don't worry too much about her. You are doing enough if you are being respectful and polite and thinking about the kids best interests.

Just worry about you and the kids.

If she can't realize what she's missing out on, what she's giving up, that is her loss.

As Frank Sinatra said: "The best revenge is massive success."