idontunderstand - you seem to have the same concerns and issues I do with my W. Abandonment in possible D proceedings, what will the kids think, and that means I will be paying for the house and everything else PLUS all expense where ever I moved to. Also, I have zero proof of my wife having an EA/PA, and Ive collected a lot of intel, my biggest problem seems to be her mother.
At the same time, I see in another thread we need to get over our 'fear' -
I just know one thing, I am really getting sick and tired of this sitch, something needs to change, and soon. The longer this goes on, the more resentment is building toward my W. Im getting tired of living like this.
For one thing, you have caught on a lot sooner that I did. I still have not completly got over my fear of losing my M. Even though after doing some of the things I was afraid to do got the best results.
I am not afraid of making my W "mad" anymore. Coach says it's good if she gets mad and that does make sense. We have to do what's best for us and our kids. Doing the right thing is not always easy.
I, too, find my resentment of my W building. Maybe it's a way to make detachment easier. Even if she said today,"I want us to fix this.", I would not be so quick to jump back in with both feet.
