Just found out she already filed

[kat727]

I mean that you need to encourage her to say what she wants in a respectful way of course. Even if it isn't what you want to hear. If my Mom and Dad were fighting, I would always try to some how lighten the situation, usually "working" on my Dad. I never tried to shake the boat if possible. I was always Miss Goody Two Shoes. I was always trying to live up to an image that I "believed" they wanted.

I was very strict on myself as a child. In fact I was never so much a child as a mini adult. I am still dealing with that now. I go over board letting my kids be kids and make mistakes like all kids do. I am no where near as strict as my Dad(I hear about that quite often, but I haven't changed the way I do things.) If I am upset with my Dad I may not be able to say something right then but I usually can a bit later after I have calmed down.

I hope that helps you. kat