DR says very clearly ignore 100% of what they say and 50% of what they do...
You are fixating on 100% of what she says and 100% of what she does.. You need to STOP THAT
She's determined to feel BETTER again... That's all.. Her mother is ignorant and just wants to help but is only going to be of so much help if she isn't able to grasp simple marriage saving concepts.
Being happy again is something you BOTH want, but BLAMING your spouse and running away into divorce isn't gonig to solve that... She will learn that eventually... But it won't happen right away.
She is and does notice the changes you are making... She USES the expose as an EXCUSE to FIGHT the changes you are making and RESIST owning her problem.
That's the key stepping stone for her is that she has to say "OK, the marriage is mine too and I contributed to 50% of the problems AND my childish and hurtful escape from them."
That's going to take her TIME... And when her mommy sends her money and others enable her she gets to avoid having to take that step.
SHe will take it eventually, it may take her several months.
If you want to throw her a curve ball pack her things into boxes so when she shows up on Friday you are ready for her...
If you LEAVE everything in its place she will pack up and milk it for every ounce of pain its worth...
My advice is to pack everything for her and leave it in dry storage, she shows up you just hand her a key to dry storage, ask her to return her key, and ask her to leave the home.
YOu sell when YOu are ready to, if you want to...
Her determination to divorce in her mind just means her sadness will end, but it won't... she will get divorced, put up a brave face to all ehr friends and then go home and cry for hours on end in private...I have been there... Trust me its a FRONT
This woman is one mean poker player... You have to have BALLS to play a hand with her... BALLS of STEEL
