Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

FM, thanks for the suggestions. You know I value your advice so thanks for taking the time to give me some tools for next time.

Active listening: I couldn't remember what it was called but yes I do that I need to change my tone though. I usually say it as if a bit surprised: "Really? you want to do x?" as opposed to "so you really want to do x?". So I'll remember this next time.

"I love camping with you and I remember the fun we've had before. I'm the dad so I make the plans, but is there anything I can do to make it more fun for you?"

I can just picture her saying just a quick "NO!" - it's her way of saying she doesn't want to talk and it doesn't matter what you say I'm not listening right now. The only thing that works is to completely ignore it and in a few mins she's OK or use my strict tone but then she cries so I don't usually.

kat, you know I'm slow hence the name so when you say don't let her be a peace maker what exactly do you mean so I can watch for it?

wii, wow, didn't know you were so passionate about that. That's so awesome...being a girl's dad will do that to you. Yeah I liked Taken and also 'law abiding citizen'- though a bit gruesome. Anyway, yeah a lot of it is horse poo...you can't go around blowing sh*t up in other countries I don't care how trained or good you are. You can't take on 15 guys with weapons and disarm and knock them to the ground no matter what you ate for breakfast. However, to me it's a bit of a fantasy to be a super dad, a super husband who always comes through and can kick some behind.

Which reminds me I should look into krav-maga or akido- my problem is I want the end result but not the long time to get there lol