Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

I guess all this time apart can do 1 of 2 things:

1) She gets lots of "support" from her friends and she pushes on through living on her own and the D becomes final

2) The situation gets to her, and support from her friends isn't enough because they can't be there 24/7 for her.

I basically have until the end of August before she is completely on her own and gets and apartment.

All her mom keeps saying is that she wants both of us to be "happy", whether it is with each other or down the road with other people. She wants our pain to end.

But I am working through it and doing a big home improvement project. I am sure she will notice it, but that usually sets her off and makes her want to leave even more.

Puppy keeps saying that he could write my situation line for line. I am curious as to what he did after she moved out. Or did it never come to that? He also had in-laws on board, which I do not anymore.

I know this is a PROCESS. And it takes alot of time.

She just thinks all the changes and 180s I have done don't mean anything because I exposed her affair twice, and am "clinging" onto the house.

That's your kryptonite right now QS ... You take everything your wife says and does to heart and at face value... You assume there's nothing beneath that at all...

You are right and I am WORKING on that. But WHAT SHE DOES also speaks volumes and volumes. Pure determination is what it is. She is a very driven person, and it hurts to watch her running FULL SPEED at divorce. It's like it is her job, and she wants to make it to the top. That's the approach she takes.